The Divine Dating Tips
Written by Angelique Henderson
The divine dating tips are designed to assist women of faith to use their gifts from the Holy Spirit when dating. It is imperative that contemporary Christian women obtain a strategic skill set to be utilized for a healthy dating life.
1. Pray before you date. No, this is not silly, only God knows what is in the hearts of men. I recommend that the following prayer be said:
God, please don’t let me embarrass myself or compromise my faith on this date. Please show me the heart of this man. Please show me what his intention is and what would be the purpose in being together. In Jesus Name Amen
2. No sex, no sex talk.
Get your protection out and keep it out at all times. As a Christian woman you have an advantage. Your protection is your gift of discerning from the Holy Spirit. Use it. God desires that we refrain from sex before marriage; not as punishment as though he is withholding any good thing from us, but he will block any bad thing from us. Be safe, before you undress your full armor of the Lord just to let your Hallelujah Hormones out to play. This can be dangerous ladies.
I know that you may have gone there in the past, and you are saved but you have no desire to live a celibate life. Or maybe you do celebrate celibacy. Sex, is a very powerful gift from God. We as Christian women must learn to use our gift wisely. We do not want to end up emotionally connected to a man that is not our God mate. Also, don’t be fooled, God is shielding us from all of the hurt that the misuse of this gift brings. Don’t compromise your faith for some finger happy fornication. It’s not worth it. Don’t be guilty if you fall. But don’t be foolish because your hormones want to play.
3. Single moms; don’t break out the pictures of all your cute babies until at least the third date.
Focus on yourself and enjoy your date. If you like him, take a deep breath don’t be so quick to introduce him to your children. Don’t look for approval. Pray, yes again. Pray that God show you how to introduce this man into the lives of your children. Ask him to show you his heart for children. You need to know if he is violent to children and or abusive. God will always protect YOUR babies. He will answer this prayer. This prayer is only if it leads to a long term situation.
4. Refrain from talking about your income or his income on the first few dates. It is none of your business; he is your date, not your husband.
It is important to refrain from looking like a gold digger. It’s also wise to obtain information about whether is income is adequate without sounding like a detective while on the date. Men like to boast on their income a lot. If he does boast don’t speak about his money. Also don’t allow him to question you about your money.
5. Pray on purpose.
Refrain from shutting down all departments of communication just because you have a man in your life. Some women have a habit of failing to keep relationship with their friends and family, they put all time and energy into the mate of the month. During the time you are involved refrain from the temptation to cease communication with God, your friends and family. Continue to pray about the purpose that God will have for your life. I am not suggesting that you pray if the man that you are currently seeing is the purpose for your life. Pray that God will reveal purpose and when he does begin to start to position you in your purpose. Just before God blesses you with your mate, he may have a ministry , business or initiative in the workings for you.
6. No heavy petting it creates the appetite for sex
7. When your hormones begin to come out and play, you respectfully send them back to their room. This means. You fast. Go into a three day flesh fast, read scripture and journal your feelings and then pray that God will renew the spirit of your mind, and clean your temple. If you honor God he will honor you. It’s a long wait sometimes, but he will take care of you.
8. No blabbing while dating.
This is simple, refrain from telling your girlfriends about your mate. Please don’t call your friends about all his bad habits; They will begin to form an opinion about him. Take your problems to the Lord. Your friends do not know what the will of God is for you. But God does. Take your issues to the Lord, if you must consult someone make sure it is wise counsel (basically you’re saved friend that will give you wise counsel advice).
9. Do not introduce him to friends/family until God has showed you the heart of man.
If God shows you this is not the man that should be in your life. I suggest you get rid of him. God cannot protect you when you are outside of his will. If you allow the trespasser to trample in your life, clearly God will not demand his way in your life. He will gently call, but you will be too wrapped up in YOUR man, to hear his call. When God gives you the okay, then you will not have conflicting feeling in your spirit, when your family begins to offer too many opinions.
10. Celebrate Celibacy, refrain from telling everyone.
Your intimate relationship with God is exactly that intimate. Refrain from telling men on the first few dates that you are celibate. This can be intimidating information to hear, even if he is a good man. Everyone is not always emotionally ready to hear this kind of information so soon. When you don’t know a man, you don’t show him all of your credit card bills, you don’t give him your bank account numbers and all other personal information. Therefore, this is personal information you do not know what he will do with that information. Be wise and wait to see if he is mature minded enough to handle that kind of conversation. Pray before you talk.
11. Pray , Eat, Live
There is nothing like dating or ending a bad relationship to make you feel as though you are in a dating drought. Keep hope alive. How did you do this? Eat your daily bread, (the bible), pray and fast like it is your last meal, read Christian and inspirational books as an appetizer, talk with Godly friends about your single faith walk for dessert and pray in position. The position of prayer, God will give you hope and you will receive information about the will of God for your life. Prayer will protect you as you move closer in your purpose. Prayer and fast will break your flesh that you may present your body as a living sacrifice. Pray that you will encourage other women to pray for purpose, celebrate celibacy and divinely date. Finally live like God intended you to live, with character, integrity and moral excellence.
God Bless
Happy Valentine’s Day.